Bismillahirahmanirahiim
Marriage…sweet marriage! This seems to be the perception of the
youth these days, all everyone wants to do right now is get married! And I don’t
blame them it is the sunnah and it is a barrier from many sins. Nowadays it’s
not just girls that dream of marriage but boys increasingly want to get married
younger and younger. So we would think we are in an ideal situation where there
will be increased amounts of marriages and love and children!
But the problem is where are these potential partners that
we are all looking for? Just yesterday I was watching a programme that aired
showing young muslim girls and boys looking for their life partner in an Islamic
manner, and suffice to say by the end of the programme they were still looking.
I really do pray for all those that took part in it, because it’s a tough
business finding a spouse.
The reason I am writing this short post on marriage is to
tell all us single souls out there Allah is sufficient for us and we should
trust Him alone in every matter of this dunya and deen, so do not depress
yourself dear sister if you have seen 20 men already, because the 21st
may be ‘The One!’ and brothers do not despair there’s plenty of women out there
waiting for you.
I can only give a few tips and advice; I am not married nor
have I found anyone (sad face lol) but would hope I live by these humble tips myself:
1) TRUST IN ALLAH ALONE - “Hasbi Allahu wa ne’mal wakil.” “Allah
is sufficient for me and is the best trustee of affairs.” Make sincere dua to
Allah Most High.
2) If a door opens for you, step inside of it. Sisters I am
talking to you!! So many times I hear of sisters who are hesitant when their
family tells them someone wants to come and see them because they feel ‘I am
still at university’, ‘I still have time’, ‘Let my sister get married first and
then I’ll look’
I’m telling you, my friends and I have been there and
probably said all of the above at least once in our lives…and guess what a lot of
us are still single! It’s ok to get the ball rolling now, getting to know
someone takes time so does the whole process of planning a wedding especially
if your parents are the ‘£20,000 wedding’ type! So it is good to start looking
even if you have 3 unmarried sisters!
3) STOP with those long lists that only an angel in Jannah
would be able to fulfil! When we get there inshAllah we shall have those
perfect matches J
but in the dunya …not so sure, so let’s not decrease our chances with high demands
and expectations of Brad Pitt/ Angelina type looks and the personality of
Mother Teresa …it’s not going to happen guys!
4) the last piece of advice I give to myself before anyone
else…let’s be ourselves when we come to meeting these potential partners, don’t
pretend to be some perfect muslim, we all make mistakes, we are all not
perfect, these things give us our personality and what made us what we are today. Be honest, If
you like going out with your girlfriends then tell him that, and if you hate
eating ‘western’ food then tell her that, no pretences!
I pray for all my sisters and brothers who are searching for
their ideal partner, May Allah grant us all good partners who will increase our
faith and provide us with righteous offspring and be with us in the Gardens of
Paradise, inshAllah!!!
I am terribly sorry, because of this rambling blogpost and
lack of direction :S Thank you for reading and forgive me if I said anything
wrong. Asalaamualaikum!
